Attachment (draft)

• Connection 

plus

• Conditioning (a process of the adaptive unconscious, aka red brain) which shows up as feelings and unconscious behaviors.
• Ideas (a process of the cognitive mind, aka blue brain) about connection in general and with specific other people 

The two processes influence each other, around and around. Together these create our expectations. They make our “attachment personality.” 
Around and around, and then engaging with other people. 

These processes form our attachment bonds, aka relationships. 
Like all personalities, our attachment personality is remarkably (and I’d argue unexpectedly) stable. That can be good or a problem.